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About this change artist

Two-and-a-half years ago, I had a husband, a house, two children. Then we got a dog and all hell broke loose. Now, I’m getting a divorce, I need to find a new place to live, and need not only a job – but an entirely new career. Luckily, I still have the important people: the kids, the dog, me. I have my life, even though it doesn’t look like I expect it too.


Most of the time…. I don’t like it. I would rather stay in bed and eat bon bons. Yet I do like life – and as I’m learning, life is change – all the time, and in every way. When it stops changing, then I’m done. Burn me and scatter the ashes somewhere pretty. What’s to be done? On many days, I have to act “as if.” As if change is what I long for. As if metamorphosis is frozen yogurt and not the hair-splitting, limb-rending process I seem to experience. Hence, I name myself the Change Artist. I embrace transition. I embrace flux. I embrace the promise, the beauty, the just-plain awesomness of change.

My blog records my efforts to welcome change, day-by day, as I stumble through this rowdy life.  For a little more “about” click here. I invite you to share my practice. If you are interested, click “follow” and then you will be notified when I post a new post. And since, in truth, we are all change artists, I invite you to share in return. Please leave comments, questions, your own anecdotes. I can’t wait to hear how your story intersects, reflects, or otherwise changes (ha!) mine.


This Change Artist


Twitter: @notwh0 (that’s a zero at the end, not an o….darn fonts!)

And I luuuuuvvvv Pintarest! Find me there as notwh0 (with a zero again….)

45 Comments leave one →
  1. margaret ballou permalink
    November 8, 2011 8:38 pm

    Have read all that I could find. Sweet stuff and transported me back to years of my transition out of marriage with two small children in tow. It took me 16 years to settle down, so when it only takes you five, you can feel good about about how on top of it all you were/are.

  2. November 28, 2011 7:19 am

    Thank you for starting this blog! I am in a similar situation – I left my husband a year ago, and I am still adjusting. I am trying navigate the ultra-competitive music business while putting my new life together. I would like to start a blog too, so I’d appreciate any advice.
    :-)I will subscribe, and I look forward to more posts!

    • November 28, 2011 6:21 pm

      Hey Rebecca,
      Thanks back at you. I’d love to give you advice on starting a blog….except that I’m not sure I really have any! Mine is still so new. But I’d love to see yours when its up – and happy to talk about the process. Good luck!

  3. January 16, 2012 7:23 pm

    I listed your blog under a blog award post on my site…I’ve really been enjoying following your blog! Anyhow, I’m supposed to let everyone Iisted know, hence this comment.


    • January 16, 2012 7:48 pm

      Thanks for the link love! I love following yours, its like my friend Lani Tanaka’s – she’s a painter, and writes about process. Who knew that I would find process so fascinating? I think we are so product-oriented in this culture, that I love seeing that, actually, making stuff takes time and work and stuff.

  4. February 6, 2012 8:16 pm

    it can be hard to embrace change, sometimes. at least for me. but, it can be done. i’m working on it. haha. thanks for stopping by my blog. i look forward to your future posts!

  5. March 3, 2012 8:55 pm

    Nice about page. It’s always interesting to hear more about the person behind the blog. Thanks for visiting mine,and I hope to read more of you.

  6. March 9, 2012 6:38 pm

    Ah yes, change. Always happening. I can relate having been laid off nearly a year ago. Depending how we view it we can let it cripple us or go on to better things. I’m looking forward to better things. Getting back into writing has helped a great deal. Thanks for checking out my blog. I’ll be back often… I like how you think!

    • March 9, 2012 6:47 pm

      Thanks for the comment. Yes- writing is a great way to process it!

  7. March 10, 2012 7:26 pm

    Thanks for sharing with candor and a touch of humor. You will emerge from this phase. Change is a constant. We hold nothing forever, and each ending signals a new beginning. But you know that. Blessings on your journey. I look forward to hearing more.

  8. mrsdentonorahippopotamus permalink
    March 12, 2012 4:18 pm

    Thanks for subscribing to my blog and commenting on my post. I really appreciate it. – Bob 🙂

    • March 12, 2012 4:25 pm

      Thanks back at you. Ok. Now I am officially procrastinating with wordpress. But its nice to make connections!

  9. March 16, 2012 6:52 pm

    Sometimes I think we are brave when we have no choice to be anything else. But then I think that we always have a choice. You have chosen to be brave. My respect is all I can give you–that, and a big “like!”

    • March 18, 2012 3:53 am

      Your comment reminds me of Pema Chodron who, in turn, reminds me that courage is not the absence of fear, but rather accepting fear and choosing to act anyway. Thanks for the encouragement, the respect, and the like! like back at ya!

  10. March 16, 2012 7:54 pm

    Hi, thanks for the follow on my blog! I hope you’ll enjoy it, and I’m looking forward to reading more of your posts, too.

  11. elsethenomad permalink
    March 19, 2012 5:49 am

    I love your outlook on life! You are right on. Change is inevitable. Someone (I don’t remember who) once said something along the lines of, Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.

  12. March 20, 2012 2:59 am

    Sisters under the skin. I chose my addictions as the focus for my blog because I hoped it might somehow help someone else — but find that most of my truly important life lessons have come from my growth through the processes of change. Many of which are very similar to yours. And sharing that is indeed helpful!! xoxo

  13. March 20, 2012 3:15 am

    Thanks for checking out my blog! I enjoy yours very much!!

    Keep on writing,
    Annie / writtenbyannie

  14. March 21, 2012 3:57 am

    Hi! Thanks for coming to check out my blog. Sisters in change! I love all things change, it’s nice to find kindred spirits. I hope you’re still enjoing the process. I definitely go back and forth with finding it fun, and finding it terrifying! Keep it up, with your attitude, only good things can come. I’m looking forward to reading more. Cheers!

    • March 21, 2012 4:29 am

      Thanks to you too. I have to admit – not lovin the change so much right now – and yet still feel that this IS what life is, so learning to be in it is the way to go.

  15. March 21, 2012 9:13 pm

    Thanks for visiting and liking my post.
    Yes, change is the only constant, and it sure makes life interesting and exciting!
    All the best to you,

    • March 23, 2012 3:18 am

      It does make life more interesting, doesn’t it. Despite all my whining, can’t really do without it…..thanks for the comment.

  16. March 21, 2012 9:20 pm

    Thanks for checking out my blog. When I get home from work tonight I will read more of yours. I understand what you are going through. I don’t deal with considering change but once it starts happening, I’m right at home. My therapist says I am good at re-inventing myself when necessary. I’ll bet you are too!

    • March 23, 2012 3:17 am

      Yah – reinvention. Love it. Hate it. Love it. Hate it….Thanks for the comment.

  17. March 23, 2012 12:53 am

    Hi! Thanks for stopping by my blog the other day. I wanted to return the visit, and I’m glad I did — I love your idea to blog about embracing change. I could probably learn a thing or two here. 🙂

  18. Carolina permalink
    March 26, 2012 12:35 pm

    I love what you wrote about change and about your life.

  19. March 26, 2012 5:40 pm

    Thanks for liking my post. You’ve got some great stuff here… love your photos, I need to figure out how to incorporate more into my blog.

    And as for the change thing, well… it’s always a roller coaster for me. I can predict it’s going to happen, kind of predict what will happen (but not always), and try to manage it a little, but in the end, I gotta ride with it. Always interesting to see, I can say that much. I’m sure yours will be as well.

  20. March 30, 2012 6:55 pm

    Hi there!

    Just a quick note to thank you for visiting my blog today, and for liking Part 18 of my serialized medical memoir. I’m so glad to e-meet you and discover your blog. Changes? Oy! Can we talk?!

    I wish you all the best, and applaud you for blogging through it all.


  21. April 1, 2012 3:23 am

    Thanks for liking my post. Best of luck with your blog.

  22. April 19, 2012 12:09 am

    Thank you for liking and following my blog. I just noticed it now, sorry! I LOVE the idea behind yur blog and have started skimming through your posts. will be “seeing” you around 🙂

  23. May 16, 2012 7:05 am

    Hey there, Been missing your posts. Are you overwhelmed by life?

    • April 5, 2013 6:05 pm

      Hey Jilanne – wow – I guess the answer is…. yes! Since you left this comment almost a year ago! Actually, I got a job and couldn’t handle keeping the blog up – and couldn’t face the idea of closing it down. But that job has now ended, and I’m toying with the idea of getting rolling again – but don’t want to unless I feel like I can really commit.
      Thanks for the comment – sorry for the tardy….very tardy… response.

      • April 8, 2013 8:01 pm

        Commitment, shmitment. Good to “hear” your voice. Just do it when you can. There are too many other things in life that truly “require” commitment, like children. So just poke your head in occasionally and say “hello.” Good luck with the next job, whatever that may be!

      • April 8, 2013 9:01 pm

        Thanks Jilanne!

  24. December 17, 2013 4:31 am

    Hey there, How are things going? Saw you just “liked” my last post. What’s going on with you now?


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